3 Things I've Changed My Mind About

alternative title: 3 times I screwed up

I changed my mind about that.

I’m beginning to believe there are fewer phrases more powerful.

In 2024, we loathe a mind-changer. We label them as a flip-flopper; a panderer. Someone who just tap dances to please the masses. Someone who should have thought longer and harder before they spoke, damnit!

But God gave us brains that are meant for learning. When you know better, you do better is a social-justice-ease phrase that sometimes makes me roll my eyes but it’s also rung true for me. I don’t want the world to look like it looks right now, with all of us fighting and finger-pointing. Team Tradwife vs. Team Deconstruction. All of us being that guy in the Bible who says thank God I’m not like those idiots¹. And in order for the world to change—well, we need to change, don’t we?

I think being part of that change, for me, might mean standing in front of you telling you of mistakes I’ve made and things I’ve changed my mind about.

I don’t want to be the type of person who moves through life unable to take in new information; too stubborn to change her ways. There are some very important universal truths I never want to stray from.² But within those universal truths there are oceans of choices, of gray space, of misty thoughts and beliefs that can transform according to our life experiences.

And this, too: sometimes we’re just wrong. Because we’re imperfect sinners with laptops and opinions.

So in the spirit of an attempted humility, I thought it would be a useful practice to spend some time thinking about what I’ve changed my mind on. Here are three things.